Monday, January 11, 2016

Sunday Morning Service (II Samuel 12:26-II Samuel 13)


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"The Bloom And The Seed"    1.10.16    Calvary Christian Fellowship, Sunday Morning Service
Intro
- In the last month, we have looked carefully at the events that brought about David's sin and his eventual repentance. Sin is certain, forgiveness is possible, but restoration is beautiful!
- The sun will shine brightly as David rises again from the ash heap, but there are seeds in the ground that will come up as well. Let's get right into it. Verse 26.
Text
II Samuel 12:26-28 : "Now Joab fought against Rabbah of the people of Ammon, and took the royal city. And Joab sent messengers to David, and said, 'I have fought against Rabbah, and I have taken the city’s water supply. Now therefore, gather the rest of the people together and encamp against the city and take it, lest I take the city and it be called after my name.'" : The siege that began in II Samuel 11 is finally coming to a close as Joab took control of Rabbah's water supply.
- The people of Ammon would not be able to hold out much longer, so Joab sent for David to come and claim the victory by leading the final assault.
II Samuel 12:29,30 : "So David gathered all the people together and went to Rabbah, fought against it, and took it. Then he took their king’s crown from his head. Its weight was a talent of gold, with precious stones. And it was set on David’s head. Also he brought out the spoil of the city in great abundance. And he brought out the people who were in it, and put them to work with saws and iron picks and iron axes, and made them cross over to the brick works. So he did to all the cities of the people of Ammon. Then David and all the people returned to Jerusalem." : As with previous battles, Joab laid the ground work, but David's presence secured the victory for Israel.
- Some have believed that this took place during the scandal based on the timeline presented in I Chronicles 20. I don't think that is a necessary conclusion.
- But it's inclusion here by the Holy Spirit, after the story of David's sin does speak volumes to us. What does a person do who has fallen into gross sin? First, they settle their account with God.
- They plead for forgiveness and God, seeing a broken and contrite heart, forgives them based on His profound mercy and grace, found in the just basis of Christ's atoning work on the Cross.
- But then what? Many hide themselves or run as far away as possible to erase the memory of their stain.
- I have come to admire David because he did not do this! Not only did he write public Psalms documenting his experience, but he remained in Jerusalem and remained on the throne.
- When called upon here, the King gathered the people behind him and led them to victory!
- When he marched out to Rabbah, he must have considered the irony. "If I had gone to Rabbah in the first place, I would have avoided all this mess!"
- That regret was inevitable but the only way to deal with bad memories and past sin is to create new memories out of fresh obedience to God! David finally did what a King was supposed to!
- The plunder from the victory was significant, the prize among the spoil being the golden Ammonite King's crown, which weighed approximately 75 pounds!
- I knew you'd want to know: An ounce of gold costs $30.00 to purchase.
- Being that there are 16oz in every pound, this crown, aside from the jewels embedded within, would put you back $36,000! It was set on David's head.
- There have been speculative thoughts that included a throne built to hold the crown in place while David sat upon it. It could have been held in place by a group of officers or a crane!
- The point is that God granted David the victory over Ammon, which further underscores His great grace toward David!
- You can only imagine the sweetness of this victory, given what David rightfully deserved. Instead of death, David experiences God's victory!
- Instead of poverty, David is enriched yet again from the spoil of the Ammonites!
- One commentator shared this sentiment: "God will never let failure be the final word in the life of the believer!"
- David could have chosen that for himself had he run away or refused to re-enter the battle. But God would not choose that for His son and he won't choose that for you and I either!
- It takes courage and strength, unnatural to a man, but not uncommon in the Spirit of God!
II Samuel 12:31 : "And he brought out the people who were in it, and put them to work with saws and iron picks and iron axes, and made them cross over to the brick works. So he did to all the cities of the people of Ammon. Then David and all the people returned to Jerusalem." : This verse has been a source of difficulty for honest Bible students, as it presents a ruthless King over a defeated people.
- At first glance, it seems as though David has relegated the people of Ammon to servitude, but according to the most conservative scholars, this is not the case.
- David destroyed these people with their own instruments and burned some in their brick ovens. Josephus mentions "torment" of the men in Antiquities 7:5.
- Certainly, those that surrendered, found mercy. Those who continued fighting were treated mercilessly, their saws picks and axes that they fought with were used against them.
- In I Kings 11:7, the author tells us that Solomon eventually built high places or worship centers for foreign gods including one for "Molech the abomination of the people of Ammon."
- Among the other idolatries that Israel committed, worship of Molech is listed as especially obnoxious.
- Jeremiah 32:35 declares that the people of Israel caused their children to pass through the fires of Molech, a thorough abomination to the Lord!
- It's very likely then that David made the priests and the worshippers pass through the Molech's fire in divine retribution. He followed this course throughout all the cities of Ammon.
- As we read these stories and understand the human loss and tragedy, remember that God's judgment is exact and never without long patience preceding His action!
- From there, David returned to Jerusalem and put the riches into the temple fund. In spite of David's victory, he has no idea what evil is coming toward him as he returns.
II Samuel 13:1 : "After this Absalom the son of David had a lovely sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of David loved her." : Nathan's prophecy in II Samuel 12:10,11 begins to come true here. The sword and the evil have come.
- By the way, I don't believe that God made these grown men make these choices. These are the natural choices that would be made because David revealed a way that they would follow.
- Absalom and Amnon were part of David's initial six children, born to him in Hebron. Amnon was David's oldest son, the crown Prince and Absalom was the third child.
- The second child, Chileab is never mentioned again in scripture after his birth announcement. Absalom then would be the crown prince after Amnon. David is their Father through different Mothers.
- Absalom and Tamar were full brother and sister and Amnon, their half brother. Amnon, with his limited exposure to Tamar, grew to love her inappropriately.
II Samuel 13:2 : "Amnon was so distressed over his sister Tamar that he became sick; for she was a virgin. And it was improper for Amnon to do anything to her." : Amnon was distressed. The NLT uses the word "obsessed," the ESV uses the word "tormented." His mental state eventually led to physical illness, as he continually desired her.
- She was of marrying age, but finding a way to couple with her was out of bounds, socially and especially according the law of Leviticus 18:9 . That didn't stop his obssession.
II Samuel 13:3-7 : "But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother. Now Jonadab was a very crafty man. And he said to him, 'Why are you, the king’s son, becoming thinner day after day? Will you not tell me?' Amnon said to him, 'I love Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.' So Jonadab said to him, 'Lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill. And when your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me food, and prepare the food in my sight, that I may see it and eat it from her hand.’ Then Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill; and when the king came to see him, Amnon said to the king, 'Please let Tamar my sister come and make a couple of cakes for me in my sight, that I may eat from her hand.' And David sent home to Tamar, saying, 'Now go to your brother Amnon’s house, and prepare food for him.'" : Amnon kept seeking for a way around the obvious conclusion. Where would he have developed that resolve? His Father hadn't let anything quench his desire. Why should he!?
- Unfortunately, along with David's poor example, there are always people who are kept around by royalty who help discover ways to circumvent better judgment.
- The apostle Paul tells us in I Corinthians 15:33 that "evil company corrupts good habits." Amnon's "friend" Jonadab was actually a cousin and a very crafty or subtle man of corruption.
- I'm always amazed at how little godly people consider the influence of friends and cousins. Choose your company wisely! Are you influencing or are you being influenced?
- Amnon's cousin is about to set a plan in motion that will quite literally rock the nation, though it's not likely that he had any idea how far things would digress.
- When he discovers the root of Amnon's sickness, he hoists up a plan to secure Tamar's presence. Amnon buys in and fools David into sending Tamar to his house.
II Samuel 13:8-13 : "So Tamar went to her brother Amnon’s house; and he was lying down. Then she took flour and kneaded it, made cakes in his sight, and baked the cakes. And she took the pan and placed them out before him, but he refused to eat. Then Amnon said, 'Have everyone go out from me.' And they all went out from him. Then Amnon said to Tamar, 'Bring the food into the bedroom, that I may eat from your hand.' And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them to Amnon her brother in the bedroom. Now when she had brought them to him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, 'Come, lie with me, my sister.' But she answered him, 'No, my brother, do not force me, for no such thing should be done in Israel. Do not do this disgraceful thing! And I, where could I take my shame? And as for you, you would be like one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, please speak to the king; for he will not withhold me from you.'" : Amnon has what he wants. His sister is waiting on him, producing pancakes for her sickly brother, who excuses the staff for the day in order to be alone with her.
- When she extended her food, he took hold of her hand and growled out his seedy desire. "Come lie with me, my sister." How shameful and foul!
- It was a disgraceful thing which would leave Tamar isolated and scarred.
- The NET Bible records her saying, "How could I ever be rid of my humiliation?" Without her virginity intact culturally, her marriage prospects, even as a King's daughter would be greatly limited.
- Aside from her humiliation, Amnon would be thought of rightfully, as one of the fools in Israel.
- His reputation would be soiled and his prospect of being thought of for any royal duties would be ruined. He would be perceived as a fool, one who acts as though there is not a God!
- She even attempts to reason with him, noting that the King might allow her to be made his wife. "At least have the decency to ask the King for my hand!"
- This is not likely a sincere statement. She's buying time, hoping to talk him out of his action. Whatever words were said, by this time, Amnon had only one thing in mind. Verse 14.
II Samuel 13:14-18 : "However, he would not heed her voice; and being stronger than she, he forced her and lay with her. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, 'Arise, be gone!' So she said to him, 'No, indeed! This evil of sending me away is worse than the other that you did to me.' But he would not listen to her. Then he called his servant who attended him, and said, 'Here! Put this woman out, away from me, and bolt the door behind her.' Now she had on a robe of many colors, for the king’s virgin daughters wore such apparel. And his servant put her out and bolted the door behind her." : Using his physical strength, Amnon overpowered Tamar and raped her.
- Amnon's desire has been satisfied and what is the fruit? Does sexual excitement breed love? After all, he had been obssessed with her and claimed a love for her.
- Indeed, after he had raped her, he neither loved her more nor loved her at all! In fact quite the opposite, he hated her with a greater hatred than he had loved her!
- He compounded his offense by sending her away and not taking responsibility for his action of defiling her! The day before he had fantasized about Tamar, his love.
- Now she is known simply as "The woman" who was barred from re-entry! Lust doesn't come from nor does it produce love!
II Samuel 13:19-22 : "Then Tamar put ashes on her head, and tore her robe of many colors that was on her, and laid her hand on her head and went away crying bitterly. And Absalom her brother said to her, 'Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now hold your peace, my sister. He is your brother; do not take this thing to heart.' So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. But when King David heard of all these things, he was very angry. And Absalom spoke to his brother Amnon neither good nor bad. For Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar." : Tamar did nothing to hide her grief. She was dispelling all thought of a consensual encounter.
- When a person mourned in Bible times, they would put ashes upon their heads to signify a union with the ground. This was how low that they felt emotionally.
- She tore her garment, also symbolizing the tearing of her soul. Her outward expressions were akin to what a person would express when a person died.
- To some extent, this was what had happened. A part of Tamar died in that moment. Her innocence and her virginity were torn from her and her heart was broken at the loss.
- When Absalom spoke to her, he had to draw these things out of her, asking her these specific questions and assuring her not to take these things to heart. This wasn't her fault.
- Tamar remained in despair, desolate in Absalom's house. She stayed with Absalom and recovered in complete shock. Absalom waited for David to take punitive action upon Amnon.
- The King heard about these things and became very angry, but did nothing.
II Samuel 13:23-27 : "And it came to pass, after two full years, that Absalom had sheepshearers in Baal Hazor, which is near Ephraim; so Absalom invited all the king’s sons. Then Absalom came to the king and said, 'Kindly note, your servant has sheepshearers; please, let the king and his servants go with your servant.' But the king said to Absalom, 'No, my son, let us not all go now, lest we be a burden to you.' Then he urged him, but he would not go; and he blessed him. Then Absalom said, 'If not, please let my brother Amnon go with us.' And the king said to him, 'Why should he go with you?' But Absalom urged him; so he let Amnon and all the king’s sons go with him." : Two full years and no justice for Tamar. No penalty has been levied and no consequence has been suffered. Absalom has conceived a plan.
- Sheepshearing was a time of great celebration. Absalom used this occasion to hold a feast for the royal family. David, perhaps sensing something amiss, seeks an excuse to avoid this.
- "We don't want to burden you." But Absalom persisted and David gave his blessing for the event and the crown prince's presence! What is David thinking?
- Certainly he knows that Absalom hates Amnon and that the wounds that had been inflicted had neither been punished nor forgotten.
- David sets the table for what is about to take place with his absentee Fatherhood and royal judgment! Verse 28.
II Samuel 13:28-33 : "Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, 'Watch now, when Amnon’s heart is merry with wine, and when I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon!’ then kill him. Do not be afraid. Have I not commanded you? Be courageous and valiant.' So the servants of Absalom did to Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the king’s sons arose, and each one got on his mule and fled. And it came to pass, while they were on the way, that news came to David, saying, 'Absalom has killed all the king’s sons, and not one of them is left!' So the king arose and tore his garments and lay on the ground, and all his servants stood by with their clothes torn. Then Jonadab the son of Shimeah, David’s brother, answered and said, 'Let not my lord suppose they have killed all the young men, the king’s sons, for only Amnon is dead. For by the command of Absalom this has been determined from the day that he forced his sister Tamar. Now therefore, let not my lord the king take the thing to his heart, to think that all the king’s sons are dead. For only Amnon is dead.'" : Absalom's plan goes perfectly!
- When word returns to David, he is briefly misinformed until Jonadab sets the record straight, adding his witness. What is Jonadab doing there? He's playing every side!
- I wonder if he ever told Absalom that it was his idea that brought about Tamar's rape? Who doesn't know that cousin is always in the middle of family drama? They're the ones who create it!
- One wonders how long he had to wait and the great suffering that his heart endured in the moments between.
- Jonadab coldly announces Amnon's death and Absalom's determination and set plan to kill him from the day that Amnon raped Tamar.  David has lost the second of four sons.
II Samuel 13:34-39 : "Then Absalom fled. And the young man who was keeping watch lifted his eyes and looked, and there, many people were coming from the road on the hillside behind him. And Jonadab said to the king, 'Look, the king’s sons are coming; as your servant said, so it is.' So it was, as soon as he had finished speaking, that the king’s sons indeed came, and they lifted up their voice and wept. Also the king and all his servants wept very bitterly. But Absalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur. And David mourned for his son every day. So Absalom fled and went to Geshur, and was there three years. And King David longed to go to Absalom. For he had been comforted concerning Amnon, because he was dead." : Absalom had no legal recourse within Israel.
- He fled to his Grandfather, who sheltered him from David's reach. It's sad that there are many stories just like that.
- Just like there are many cousins and "friends" who will help facilitate sinful situations, there are just as many Grandparents who will protect their kids from the consequence of their action!
- Absalom was there for three years and David wanted to go to him. He wanted to restore the relationship having fully vented his grief over Amnon.
- Absalom was now his crown prince and David's heart longed for him in spite of his crime.
- David will soon seek to restore a man who has no heart for repentance, which is a dangerous proposition.
Conclusion
- David had sinned and was restored, but his actions carved out a path that his kids took to heart. This record isn't here to justify those actions. It's here to keep us from repeating them!
- Because of the grace and mercy of God, He has sent His Son to die for you. If you have believed in Him, you have been invited into His family!
- By Christ's work, you have a Father who has perfectly planned for your life and will lovingly, gently discipline you when you stray.
- Because of Christ, you have a friend that sticks closer than a brother, who is worthy of listening to because He has revealed His perfect obedience!
- Because of Christ, there are no Grandchildren or great Grandchildren, only children and heirs of the inheritance that Christ has earned for them by His obedience!
- God shows us David's dysfunction but invites us to experience His perfect family! May the Lord give us wisdom to understand!

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